I am a parent of 2 boys with ASD. One is a level 1, will be 12 soon, and the other a level 3, he just turned 9. It is hard being a parent of special needs children. My husband and I never get time without the kids because no one wants to watch the 9 year old. And it sucks. It can also be hard on the marriage. You seem like you got the hang of it.